Have you ever been told you’re “too nice”? Do you struggle to tell people “no”?
Are you desperate to make everyone around you happy, at your own expense?
God calls us to be holy, righteous, kind, gentle and patient – but have we substituted the fruit of the Holy Spirit for people pleasing and seeking approval?

On this episode, host Tola-Doll Fisher and her guests discuss why being too nice isn’t always a good or Christian thing to do.

Danielle Finch is a wife, mum and former SEN (Special Educational Needs) teacher. She is now a freelance writer, sharing her experience of navigating life, parenting and faith, with disability. Danielle's article for Woman Alive is the inspiration for the discussion we're having today. Read it here: https://www.womanalive.co.uk/opinion/i-was-a-people-pleaser-and-i-thought-it-made-me-a-better-christian/20227.article and you can connect with Danielle at @thisdisabledfamilylife

Rachel Allcock is a high school teacher-librarian. She is also a content writer, social media manager, and events assistant for Activate Your Life. The Activate organisation exists to equip, resource, train and inspire Christian women to be active in sharing God's love in natural, meaningful ways. You can find out more about Activate at https://www.activateyourlife.org.uk/ and connect with Rachel at @weetabixglue.words

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Released on 29 Dec 2025