Proverbs 25:12
Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold is the rebuke of a wise judge to a listening ear.
Johannes Kepler, the German astronomer, said: “I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.” All I can say is: “Good for Johannes Kepler!” I suspect we all really enjoy people saying nice things about us. A rebuke might be very good for us, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to hear, even if it is as valuable as an ornament of fine gold.
There are two challenges here. Firstly, how can we become better at sharing valid criticism with others? Every time I have received helpful criticism, it has been embedded within encouragement. It has often been said that if you need to offer criticism, 80% of what you say should be encouragement. This isn’t a clever political ploy, but a way of ensuring that the criticism is set securely within a relationship of affirmation.
Secondly, how can we become better at receiving criticism? People’s ability to receive criticism undoubtedly varies. Past hurts and traumas make some people very wary of anything that is not entirely positive. Others appear to be so secure that they are able to receive even negative criticism with equanimity. This emphasises the importance of us all finding someone with whom we can be completely honest. Within a loving and trusting relationship we are likely to find that their rebuke is as valuable as a piece of gold jewellery.
Question
In what ways could you give and receive criticism more effectively?
Prayer
Lord Jesus Christ, help me to be more loving in offering criticism to others, and more gracious in receiving it. Amen

Released on 5 Nov 2026